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Sexual Problems

Relationship issues related to sexual problems:

  • Sexual boredom
  • Dislike of partner
  • Anger, Fear
  • Power differences, control issues
  • Fallen out of love
  • Lack of sexual attraction
  • Infidelity
  • Disappointment
  • Perceived selfishness
  • Finances, children, in-laws
  • Different values or interests
  • Abuse
  • Partner’s psychological disturbance

Nearly all individuals and couples go through periods when interest or sexual performance is hindered. Couples and individuals also vary widely in how often they have sex. For some, once a week, once a month, or even a few times a year may be very normal. There is not a clear standard of what is a “normal” sex life and therefore, this can make it challenging to diagnose whether someone has a “problem”. In addition, one specific cause may not be the reason a sexual problem is occurring. A combination of physical and psychological causes can often be more likely. Physical conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, alcoholism, heavy drug use, hormonal imbalances, heavy smoking, aging, and side effects of medications can contribute to sexual problems. Psychological causes may include situational anxiety or stress at work, concerns about performance, relationship problems, underlying mental disorders such as anxiety and depression, or a previous traumatic sexual experience.  

Therapy can be a safe way to help explore the issues that may be specific to the person or couple in their situation.